So you’ve gotten over your failed marriage, you have your life figured out, you have beautiful kid(s), a good stable job but still feel like you’re missing out on something in life? Bottom-line, are you feeling lonely?
Then you, my friend, need a date. Here are a few things you need to follow to get yourself back on the dating saddle.
1. ARE YOU SURE YOU ARE COMPLETELY OVER HIM/HER?
Make sure you are absolutely over your former partner before you even begin to think about dating again. Rebound relationships come with a lot of drama and is additional baggage that you don’t need or want.
2. BRUSH ASIDE THE FEAR THAT YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO MEET POTENTIAL PARTNERS
The fear is natural, now that you are frequently visiting supermarkets and parks with your kid instead of night clubs, bars and movie theaters where chances of meeting someone new are higher. But don’t worry! Museums, parks, bookstores and other kid friendly places are also great places to meet to potential partners. Single parent clubs and groups should definitely not be ruled out as they are good places for you to meet eligible, single, like minded people.
3. THINK YOU’RE TOO OLD TO DATE ANYMORE?
To be honest, no one is too old for a date! Everyone deserves some love in their lives! There is absolutely no reason for you to feel insecure about yourself, post your big breakup. Put your past behind you, be confident, and step into the arena with your head held high. Nothing is sexier that a healthy dose of confidence.
4. EXTRA POUNDS TO SHED
Getting back into the dating game is not easy. Apart from the emotional turmoil, there is always the fear that you are far from your ‘A’ Game, physically. For some it’s post baby weight for others they have just let themselves go. Just get yourself out, wear your snazziest clothes and take along your charming personality, that should do the trick. In case you still aren’t convinced, a wardrobe change is a quick fix and a structured workout schedule a more long term solution.
5. IS YOUR SCHEDULE PACKED?
You are probably juggling multiple things and time to date and find the man/woman of your dreams almost seems impossible. It’s more about prioritizing and finding the small windows of opportunity as a start. A great way is to get onto online dating sites or the multiple dating apps that are there in the market. Once that is out of the way and you have options galore, schedule dates during your leisure time or on weekends.
6. SHOULD I DATE A PARENT OR A NON-PARENT?
You may want to date another single parent, obviously as there will be lots to bond over and it’s just easier since you both have a common start point. This however doesn’t mean you have to close all doors on non-parent women/men. If he/she seems understanding and mature enough, then there is nothing stopping you from going for it!
7. TO INTRODUCE OR NOT TO INTRODUCE?
Introducing your child to your partner is something you should think about too. If you’re unsure about the longevity of your relationship, steer clear from introducing your kids. Kids tend to become attached soon and in case things go awry, it’ll add complications that you don’t need.
Also, once you’ve established a stable relationship with your new partner, introduce your ex to your new partner. This may be slightly awkward, but you must even out the tension, such that the children don’t sense the tension when everyone is together.
All in all, we know that dating once you are out of a relationship is hard, but you have to ask yourself, whether a chance of finding love again is harder or is being alone.